Why do many families appear“Inversion of parent-child relationship”,What are the hazards?

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Release time:2022-12-26 15:16:52 Number of views:91

01.Parental parenting

Parental child”Also known as“Small adult children”,It refers to the inversion of parent-child relationships between parents and their roles in the family since childhood,From a young age, not only can one not be a child peacefully,Children who are also forced to play the role of parents。

Parents of such children have lower levels of psychological development,Psychological immaturity,In emotional control、Insufficient understanding of others and social functions,taThey are not aware of the needs of their children,contrary,Due to their own lack and some functional deficiencies,Unconsciously shifting the responsibility of meeting one's own needs to one's own children,Subconsciously allowing one's own child to assume the role of a psychological parent,In clinical psychology, there is a proprietary term called parenting parenting。

There are two main types of professionalization,One is emotional,This is particularly abundant,Parents are unable to digest their emotions,Allowing children to take on the responsibility of regulating their emotional function as containers。One is instrumental,Similar toPoor children are early masters,Premature putting children under the pressure of work and survival in the adult world。

This article may focus more on the former type:Forced to become parents psychologically during the process of growthEmotions and emotionsContainer for,Helping parents regulate their emotions,Maintaining the psychological function of parents,The problems that may arise from experiencing such parenting and how to heal oneself。

 02.Possible issues with parenting through professional parenting

Based on my clinical experience observation,Children who have been forced to become parents' containers since childhood,There are often the following characteristics:

1、Highly empathetic towards others,Extreme neglect of oneself

Children from families with inverted parent-child relationships often have strong empathy for others,Very attentive and considerate to others' feelings,Very considerate of others,howevertaPeople often overlook themselves extremely,Even without the concept of self,seemtaThe value of our existence is to satisfy others,Always prioritize the needs of others before your own needs,Good at taking care of others,Excessive tolerance and concession towards people and things,Very empathetic towards others,But I don't empathize with myself,And sometimes they are very demanding of themselves。

in addition,tTheir obedience is very high,Many times, they obey others without hesitation,This is also a habitual reaction of being around others since childhood。

2、Not sure what you want

I don't know what I want,taPeople often have no knowledge of their own preferences,I often have no idea how to spend my life。

But that doesn't mean they're idle all day,contrary,Many of these children have been busy since childhood due to the expectations placed on them by their parents,Many of them are even academic bullies,Good academic performance,But after being admitted to college, I am not clear about what I want。Or after working, I realize that this is not what I want,To reflect on what one wants。

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